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Comment on Stop Arguing With an Alcoholic-Ways to end fighting by Alys

Alys — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 11:57:40 +0000

Do these tips work if the alcoholic is a parent?

Comment on Alcoholism-What is Your Biggest Fear? by Mary

Mary — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 01:27:28 +0000

Alys, my mom got better and quit drinking for over twenty five years. Pray for her!

Comment on Will I Become an Alcoholic if My Parents Drink by admin

admin — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 01:21:05 +0000

Alys, thanks for sharing.

It’s really simple for you…if you don’t drink, you will never get drunk.

Anyone who starts drinking is at risk of becoming an alcoholic.

Comment on Coping With Lying Alcoholics-Why they lie so much by admin

admin — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 01:15:09 +0000

Alcoholics who lie will continue to do so even when we know they are lying. When we learn to stop confronting them, then there’s less fighting and arguing going on. This is good for “us” not necessarily them. We begin to get more peaceful when there’s less arguing going on.

An alcoholic is going to continue to do two things no matter what we say or do:

1) Drink
2) Lie

So, we just have to accept that these are personality characteristics of an alcoholic.

Comment on Will I Become an Alcoholic if My Parents Drink by Alys

Alys — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 21:13:32 +0000

My mum dirnks and it scares me to think that she could die before watching grow up i’m 14 at the moment and want my mum there to see me grow up, have a wedding, have kids that sort of thing but i’m scared that when i’m older i will become an alcoholic and then i could die before watching my kids grow up and them having to go through living with an alcoholic parent like i have to and i don’t wish that on anybody. Because she is an alcoholic does that mean i will be to? all this is sort of new to me beacuse i have never found help and have never shared it with anyone but i still have that question even now could you please answear me as it would be a geat weight lifted off my shoulders
thanks.

Comment on Alcoholism-What is Your Biggest Fear? by Alys

Alys — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 21:01:30 +0000

My biggest fear over my mum’s alcoholism is that she is killing herself and firtcould by before my 16th birthday through drinking and the other illnesses she has. I just want to say good night or give her a hug without the thought that it could be the last time i see her. I wantto be able to go to my friends houses without being worried that may not be there when i go home. I want to be able to have friends over and not have to worry about her scaring them off or embarrasing me by falling over. I want her to be there when i get married and to see her first grandchild all the things you want your mum to be there to see, to take a boyfriend home to meet her have her look disaproving and saying nice try. Through all the arguments i still love her she is still my mum and i don’t want to see her killing herself.

Comment on Coping With Lying Alcoholics-Why they lie so much by Frank

Frank — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 06:16:37 +0000

Seriously. I have parents that are rarely sober and the best advise you can give is just to shut up and deal with it?

Comment on Setting Boundaries With Alcoholics Who Display Unacceptable Behavior by Jim

Jim — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 04:06:24 +0000

I’ve been accepting unacceptable behavior for a long time. It’s like a way of life for me to get stepped on by the alcoholic. She actually treats the dog better than me.

Comment on Being Kind to an Alcoholic by Jim

Jim — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 04:01:34 +0000

Just wanted to say that I tried two of your suggestions and I do actually feel better about myself. Thanks for the great tips and blog!

Comment on Being Kind to an Alcoholic by Marylee

Marylee — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 19:47:32 +0000

As my brother would say before he passed….”easy for yo to say.” Your column is most helpful. I am care take for 3 grandchildren at 77 and their parents have addicted behavior to alcohol and drugs and are constantly berating me.