Alcoholic's Friend » Behavior Patterns http://alcoholicsfriend.com Alcohol addiction help for people affected by active drinkers Wed, 08 Sep 2010 11:03:23 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Alcoholic Relationship Chaos http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2010/09/alcoholic-relationship-chaos/ http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2010/09/alcoholic-relationship-chaos/#comments Wed, 08 Sep 2010 10:45:11 +0000 admin http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=773 “Needing to have chaos in my life, I consistently am attracted to alcoholics.” This is a statement that a friend recently made during a twelve step group meeting. As I thought about it, I recalled several occasions when others had made similar comments. Most people who have a drinking problem can be an absolute blast [...] Related posts:
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Understand [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.]]> http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2010/06/alcoholics-keep-us-fearful/feed/ 0 Appreciating What I Have Lessons the Pain of Alcoholism http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2010/06/appreciating-lessons-pain-alcoholism/ http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2010/06/appreciating-lessons-pain-alcoholism/#comments Fri, 18 Jun 2010 20:01:26 +0000 admin http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=609 The biggest problem we seem to have at times is getting the focus off of the alcoholic and on to better things. By appreciating things in my life rather than getting all caught up in the negative aspects, living with alcoholism is less stressful.

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“What happened to that sweet person I fell in love with?”

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