Alcoholic's Friend » Behavior Patterns http://alcoholicsfriend.com Help for people affected by alcoholics Fri, 27 Jan 2012 11:39:03 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 The Alcoholic Is Not Going To Change http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/the-alcoholic-is-not-going-to-change/ http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/the-alcoholic-is-not-going-to-change/#comments Sun, 30 Oct 2011 23:34:36 +0000 admin http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=2334 When I first started participating in therapy meetings, I thought everything was the alcoholics fault. If they would just change,  then everything would just be fine and dandy. As I look back to that time… ten years ago, I see now why the wise old-timers in Al-non told me that I was the one who [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.]]> http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/the-alcoholic-is-not-going-to-change/feed/ 0 Insanity Associated With Alcoholism-Advice For Loved Ones http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/insanity-associated-with-alcoholism-advice-for-loved-ones/ http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/insanity-associated-with-alcoholism-advice-for-loved-ones/#comments Fri, 21 Oct 2011 17:39:43 +0000 admin http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=2244 I hear people all the time say that they don’t want to deal with the insanity that is associated with the disease of alcoholism anymore. There are constantly things that rock our world when there is an active alcoholic/addict in our lives. Many people come to our blog looking for advice about how to deal [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.]]> http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/insanity-associated-with-alcoholism-advice-for-loved-ones/feed/ 0 Alcoholic Thinking-Brain Disorder In Addictive Personality http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/alcoholism-thinking-disease-brain-disorder/ http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/alcoholism-thinking-disease-brain-disorder/#comments Tue, 18 Oct 2011 15:14:46 +0000 admin http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=2221 I’ve heard the term many times that alcoholism is a thinking disease. The longer I attended AA, I realized that there was much truth to be understood in this statement. Even prior to medical research finding facts to support the idea, alcoholics who participated in the Alcoholics Anonymous program knew it was true.

We have all [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.]]> http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/alcoholism-thinking-disease-brain-disorder/feed/ 0 What To Do When An Alcoholic Always Blames http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/what-to-do-when-an-alcoholic-always-blames/ http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/what-to-do-when-an-alcoholic-always-blames/#comments Fri, 07 Oct 2011 13:58:56 +0000 admin http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=2130 Guilt is either earned or learned is what I have always heard. If you are troubled by an alcoholic who always blames you for things, I’ve got a few suggestions that could help you. I hated getting blamed for stuff all of the time. Once I learned how to protect myself from the barrage of [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.]]> http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/what-to-do-when-an-alcoholic-always-blames/feed/ 0 Choose To Be Happy Even Though The Alcoholic Is Not http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/choose-happy-alcoholic/ http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/choose-happy-alcoholic/#comments Sat, 01 Oct 2011 11:22:16 +0000 admin http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=2063 I never knew I could be happy even though I was faced with many disastrous situations involving the alcoholic. Do you know that you can choose to be happy regardless of how an alcoholic treats you?

I want you to think about something, does the opinion of the person who has the drinking problem affect how [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.]]> http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/10/choose-happy-alcoholic/feed/ 0 Having Expectations Of Alcoholics http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/09/having-expectations-alcoholics/ http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/09/having-expectations-alcoholics/#comments Thu, 29 Sep 2011 19:01:08 +0000 admin http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=2030 How many years did I act like an idiot because I was having unreasonable expectations of the addict in my life? When the alcoholic was not respecting our relationship as I would expect them to I would find myself overly frustrated.

Was I looking for affection, understanding, love, commitment, reliability, or common courtesy from someone who [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.]]> http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/09/having-expectations-alcoholics/feed/ 1 Quit Trying To Control An Alcoholic http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/09/trying-control-alcoholic/ http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/09/trying-control-alcoholic/#comments Wed, 28 Sep 2011 19:44:24 +0000 admin http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=2001 Does it make any sense to try and exercise control over an out-of-control alcoholic? Before I understood what it meant to be powerless over an alcoholic, I was constantly trying to influence their behaviors.

My natural impulse and habit is to try and force change. When I see something wrong in others, I have a tendency [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.]]> http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/09/trying-control-alcoholic/feed/ 0 Stop Enabling An Alcoholic http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/09/stop-enabling-alcoholic/ http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/09/stop-enabling-alcoholic/#comments Tue, 27 Sep 2011 22:22:39 +0000 admin http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=1986 Why is it so important to stop helping a substance abuser? I fear that if I don’t help the alcoholic that they may follow through with threats of killing themselves.  I suppose that if I cut them off that I might lose them completely. The fear of lose seems to be the root of my [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.]]> http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/09/stop-enabling-alcoholic/feed/ 1 Irrational Behavior Accompanying Alcoholic Relationships http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/09/irrational-behavior-accompanying-alcoholic-relationships/ http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/09/irrational-behavior-accompanying-alcoholic-relationships/#comments Thu, 22 Sep 2011 02:21:17 +0000 admin http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=1848 I have displayed some of the most shameful, irrational behaviors while being involved in alcoholic relationships. Thank God I have learned how to not act so crazy anymore. There was a time when I was a babbling fool asking for forgiveness all of the time for the way I was acting.

You know what I am [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.]]> http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/09/irrational-behavior-accompanying-alcoholic-relationships/feed/ 2 Expecting Unexpected Things To Happen With An Alcoholic http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/07/expecting-unexpected-things-happen-alcoholic/ http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/07/expecting-unexpected-things-happen-alcoholic/#comments Tue, 05 Jul 2011 19:19:57 +0000 admin http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=1683 In support group meetings they say that expectations lead to resentments. I totally understand the truth of this statement within the context of someone disappointing us. I still think that there are a few healthy expectations that we can exercise that will help us while we are involved in alcoholic relationships.

When we begin to understand [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.]]> http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2011/07/expecting-unexpected-things-happen-alcoholic/feed/ 1