Guest Post By: Robert
I cannot believe what is happening in my ten year relationship with my wife. Yesterday she hit me around 6PM. She started an argument; I realized I didn’t want to fuss, turned and started walking away. I muttered under my breath; “stupid F… alcoholic.” She hit me with an open hand in the head just above my right ear. Her unseen blow left my right ear ringing for the next half hour. Instinctively, I swiftly swung around and pushed her away. I yelled; “STUPID…DRUG ADDICT,” ran out the front door, got in my car and left the house for about three hours. When I came home, she was gone and didn’t come home until about 7:30 in the morning the following day.
I am so sick of living like this. She used to hardly drink at all. Now every time she has a day off she gets wasted …
I don’t know what to do. This is the third time she has hit me in about three months. I don’t want to have her arrested because she is in the medical field and having an arrest on her record for domestic violence could ruin her career.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
JC: Robert thanks for sharing your story with us. I can empathize with your situation. First off, you are the one who is going to have to make some changes. The following information may help you with your situation:
After you read the article about how to not argue and watch the video on restraint, it would be a good idea for you to find an Al-anon meeting ASAP. I so understand how frustrated you must be with your wife’s addiction problems, but you are going to have to stop calling her an alcoholic and drug addict in her presence. She probably feels very bad about the person she has become and deep down wants to change. She has a raging battle going on inside of her. I’m confident that she hates the person she has become.