Generally, when an alcoholic wakes up they start drinking as soon as possible. If not they are planning where the will get the first one for the day. For many this means first thing in the morning. People who drink have what is called a thinking disorder (disease theory of alcoholism). From the moment they wake up the obsession for alcohol begins and does not stop until they fall asleep at night.
Their minds never quit thinking about where, when and how the can get a drink of alcohol. It sounds crazy…I know. They cannot get away from the haunting physical addiction or quit thinking about getting a drink. It is very much like having an obsession with someone who you are deeply in love with.
Some have said that alcoholics romance the bottle.
A friend of mine used to drink alcohol first thing in the morning. The convenient store was his regular stop on his way to work. Fortunately for him, he was self-employed because sometimes by late morning he had to sleep for a while because he had consumed so much alcohol.
Prior to going to bed they generally make sure that they either have a plan to get a drink when they wake up or have some easily accessible to them.
Along with this chronic, dysfunctional behavior is where the alcoholic lies all the time. As they are mapping out the day for when and where they will get the alcohol, they are also developing excuses and lies to cover up their addictive behaviors. Family, friends and co-workers get lied to often. Read this article about lying alcoholics.
People who start drinking alcohol as soon as they get up are definitely alcoholics. There’s no two ways about this one.
Alcoholism is a thinking disease. It cannot just be turned off like a light switch. As much as we find ourselves obsessing over an alcoholic, they get caught in the grips of chasing after drink.
If your husband, wife, friend or child is drinking alcohol first thing when they awake in the morning, the chances are good that they have a serious problem with alcoholism.
Right now, you must realize that you cannot control their drinking, you did not cause it and you will never be able to cure it. In a nut-shell… you must learn to let them go. That my friend is easier said than done.
The best place to learn how to let go of a problem drinker is in support group meetings. If you search in your local area you will find that meetings are available first thing in the morning and throughout the entire day.
Living with an active alcoholic is too much for us. Our thinking gets distorted and we try to force solutions. There’s no solution to the problem that you can cause top happen. They must decide on their own to quit drinking. Until then, all you can do for the alcoholic family member, friend or co—worker is learn how to love them unconditionally.
The process of understanding why alcoholics do the things they do can take many support group meetings. Coupled with the meetings, reading as much literature as possible is suggested. If we are going to understand why an alcoholic must obsess over getting a drink, we must get around people who understand these types of behaviors. Sometimes a therapist can help with these issues, but I personally think that Al-anon is your best bet.