Millions suffer from anxiety because they are living with an alcoholic spouse, mother, father, brother, sister or teenager. This is by far one of the biggest subjects related to alcoholism that I can think of. Here are a few steps for overcoming this troubling emotion that affects us on a daily basis.
It’s OK to not go home
This is something that took me a while to learn. If I was not mentally prepared to go home to the unexpected because there was a restless feeling on the inside of me, I had to learn to ride around the block a few times. We must learn to recognize when something is bothering us and get control of our emotions before walking into the atmosphere where the alcoholic in our lives lives. By getting a handle on things prior to walking in the door, we can better handle what is going to happen on the other side of the door.
Living a more serene life
As we begin to attend support group meetings that help us get more peace in our lives, when the calm is disrupted we begin to notice it right away. Because of this recognition, we then are able to focus on ourselves and work at getting rid of the anxiety related to living with an alcoholic. Before learning how to get serenity, we had no idea what peace was like because we were always fighting and arguing with the problem drinker.
Just go to sleep-a key to overcoming anxiety
I learned early on from a good friend in the Al-anon program that I should just go to sleep when the alcoholic refuses to come home and wants to stay out drinking. This tremendously helped me to not lose my cool due to lack of sleep. Even though at times it was extremely difficult to do, the more I practiced just getting in bed, instead of pacing the floor, the better I got at falling asleep. When we lose sleep we then become vulnerable to experience all sorts of negative emotions. Anger and anxiety go hand in hand with families who are dealing with an active alcoholic.
If you are living with an alcoholic, then it’s for certain that you are dealing with anxiety. If we can stay present in today, avoid the future and forget about the past, we are better able to maintain a certain level of serenity. This is another way of overcoming anxiety. Just to know that today I have everything that I need, sometimes is all I need to help me keep my cool and not lash out at the alcoholic in the family.