In what ways can we forgive and release the person who is an alcoholic? Holding them in unforgiveness is hurting us more than it is them. Is this just a matter of making a decision or do they have to do something to earn our merit?
If we do decide to let this problem go that caused so much trouble in our lives, will the alcoholic turn around and disappoint us again? Do we fear getting emotionally hurt if we just let them slide by with yet another disappointment?
Will I have to go through the whole process once more if they do disappoint me?
Perhaps you are exhausted with expressing forgiveness toward the problem drinker in your life because they just continue to disappoint you by their irresponsible behavior. How many times must I forgive the alcoholic? I say ten thousand times ten thousand times they should be released from our bondage. Only God has the right o choose not to forgive a problem drinker. There are ways of taking care of ourselves when alcoholism is present that will allow us to forgive the misdeeds of others and protect ourselves from emotional trauma.
What did the alcoholic do to cause you to harbor unforgiveness in your heart?
Here are three proven ways of forgiving the problem drinker in your life that will help you fell better inside. Your life will be more peaceful if you apply these suggestions.
• Ask God to help you do this task. He is the author and maker of who we are and knows exactly how to handle the situation.
• You must make a decision to let go of the hurt and accept that the past is over with and today is a brand new day. This by far is the biggest step in starting the process of forgiving an alcoholic of the horrible way they treated you or someone else. Once you have let that thing go that the problem drinker did, never pick it up ever again. Even if they do the same thing, do not refer to the past.
• Let them know that you have forgiven them for what they have done. This should not always be done in every case. An alcoholic will constantly do things that we will have to forgive them for on a daily basis, but if they do something really huge that causes a major separation, let them know that you have forgiven them.
• Do not hold any expectations as to how they will respond to you when you explain that you are forgiving them for the things that they have done.
• Set protective boundaries with alcoholics and let them know that their behavior was totally unacceptable and that you will not be as understanding if it happens again.
• Do not have any expectations that they will not let you down in this same area. Live life one day at a time knowing that they are very sick with the disease of alcoholism. Do not allow fear to grip your life with thoughts of mistrust or doubt. Just learn how to be happy with an alcoholic in spite of how they are choosing to live their life.
Those are some of the most important methods that I use when I have to forgive the alcoholic in my life. If you follow those steps for forgiving an alcoholic, then you will surely be a much more serene individual on the inside. Applying these steps, proven to help with the forgiveness process, will make you a much happier person.
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