Comments on: Understanding an Alcoholics Behavior http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2009/11/understanding-an-alcoholics-behavior/ Help for people affected by alcoholics Fri, 18 May 2012 20:50:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Jackie http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2009/11/understanding-an-alcoholics-behavior/comment-page-1/#comment-17 Jackie Sat, 26 Dec 2009 16:34:36 +0000 http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=207#comment-17 May I suggest not making any major decisions in anger. It’s good to set boundaries and not be an enabler. Learning how to do this in a loving way is tough and takes time. We need to be connected with people who know how to deal with these difficult situations. There’s a great saying that goes like this; “say what you mean but don’t say it mean.” The way I learned to set boundaries and to be more understanding of the alcoholic’s illness was by attending support group meetings. May I suggest not making any major decisions in anger. It’s good to set boundaries and not be an enabler. Learning how to do this in a loving way is tough and takes time.

We need to be connected with people who know how to deal with these difficult situations.

There’s a great saying that goes like this; “say what you mean but don’t say it mean.”

The way I learned to set boundaries and to be more understanding of the alcoholic’s illness was by attending support group meetings.

]]> By: MELISSA http://alcoholicsfriend.com/2009/11/understanding-an-alcoholics-behavior/comment-page-1/#comment-14 MELISSA Thu, 24 Dec 2009 07:32:52 +0000 http://alcoholicsfriend.com/?p=207#comment-14 Living with an alcoholic works, and the Title Of MONEY and ABUSE sure hit home for me this Christmas. I dont Have to worry about the attitude changes everyday, or the FLIP FLOP Moods, He Stole my money order from my rent, and went and cashed it up at wal-mart for 415.00 and Spent it. Now hes living back at his house with No running water, No heat, and No toilet. Probably next to NO food. IDK If i am going to press charges or not, IF i dont he may get away with this Time and time again with Some other woman.And Children. I have to take this one day at a time, but as i realize day after day I was addicted to the alcoholic addictive "behavior" Now, I am slowly Enjoying the peace with my kids. Even though he is out there Lurking ready to strike Some how some way. He wasnt there for any of his friends OR family, Just him and his booze, now In a way i have accepted. Thats the way HE wants to live until he dies. So be it. I cant believe after everything I have done for him, he would stoop so low as to take my money for OUR Home and go have a couple of big nights and drink it all away. NO CONCIENCE what so ever. but I can do something about it this time. No one else. Should I or Shouldnt I? Living with an alcoholic works, and the Title Of MONEY and ABUSE sure hit home for me this Christmas. I dont Have to worry about the attitude changes everyday, or the FLIP FLOP Moods, He Stole my money order from my rent, and went and cashed it up at wal-mart for 415.00 and Spent it. Now hes living back at his house with No running water, No heat, and No toilet. Probably next to NO food. IDK If i am going to press charges or not, IF i dont he may get away with this Time and time again with Some other woman.And Children. I have to take this one day at a time, but as i realize day after day I was addicted to the alcoholic addictive “behavior” Now, I am slowly Enjoying the peace with my kids. Even though he is out there Lurking ready to strike Some how some way. He wasnt there for any of his friends OR family, Just him and his booze, now In a way i have accepted. Thats the way HE wants to live until he dies. So be it.
I cant believe after everything I have done for him, he would stoop so low as to take my money for OUR Home and go have a couple of big nights and drink it all away. NO CONCIENCE what so ever. but I can do something about it this time. No one else. Should I or Shouldnt I?

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