Comments on: Irresponsible Actions, Broken Plans, Missed Engagements

By: sandy

sandy — Wed, 19 Oct 2011 17:36:55 +0000

why do we have to change for then and treat them with love and repect when its them who r messing up, make no scents. we r in our right mind so we have to pussyfoot around them make no scents!!!!! I dont understand

By: admin

admin — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 01:49:52 +0000

Max, there is a lot to be learned about how to cope with an alcoholic. Thanks for sharing.

By: admin

admin — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 01:40:21 +0000

You are welcome Eve. It's been a few days since you posted this comment; I hope things are going well with you. You know...change just takes time. It is difficult at first, but the more we stick with a good program like Al-anon the easier change becomes. There are so many things to learn about how to love an alcoholic and maintain our sanity at the same time. It can be done! Keep up the good work...Oh and remember to smile too!

By: Eve

Eve — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 13:52:11 +0000

These are helpful…I should read them more instead of being so caught up with my A. I failed this morning and allowed him to push all my buttons…he started accusing me of having an affair, of being emotionally irrational, that I was the one who needed help and was creating all the problems…was basically trying to find all the things he could to start an argument and upset me. I am not at the point where it doesn’t affect me, I got upset and have decided to leave the house for the day just so I can somehow focus on my studies for school. Its still very hard for me to find good support, everyone I seem to meet even in Al-Anon just tells me to leave him, with no other solutions..thank God at least this website exists. I am feeling pretty hopeless this morning but am timing my obsessing over him, and then as the article said before this one I will put my effort into focusing on myself. Its so hard to be attacked for no apparent reason. He wants complete control of me and its crazy. Thanks if you read all this.

By: Max

Max — Wed, 21 Sep 2011 20:10:12 +0000

These emails have really helped me understand and deal with my fathers alcoholism. I do feel I am still a long way from not thinking about his problem constantly but you are greatly assisting me in being able to continue to work toward that goal.

Thank You

By: Jody

Jody — Wed, 21 Sep 2011 17:37:53 +0000

Thankyou so much for these emails. They are so good!
I always thought that my A was just a mean person
And that I was the only one who had these ongoing
Problems. Now I realize all addicts have most of
The same characteristics. Your daily tips are helping
Sooo much. May god bless you for doing this.

Thankyou!

Jody